Promoting Communication

Image: Jennifer Donley

Every relationship expert tells you that the key to a good relationship is communication. Sometimes our lives get in the way and we aren't always focused on communicating with our spouse. Frequent communication is so important for a healthy and happy marriage. You need to let your spouse know what you are feeling and what you would like them to do! We aren't mind readers : ) Setting aside time for deep one-on-one talks isn't easy and having deep conversations doesn't always come naturally. Working on little ways to communicate often makes a big difference. Here's my list of "little" ways:

• Text once a day while you are away from each other. Just a short "I Love You!" or a virtual hug shows the other person you are thinking of them.
• Make notes during your day about what you did/thought/things you want to talk about later. I often do this with my husband and during dinner we go through the list. It's a great way to unwind from the day and share your life with your spouse.
• Write love letters to each other. Your love letter could be about how you appreciate the hard work your spouse does (at work or around the house), something they said that made you smile, or just how much you love them. Again, this shows your spouse you really are thinking about them and appreciate them. 
• Leave a note somewhere they will find it (bathroom mirror, suitcase, lunch box). A heart, smiley face, or "I Love You" will put a smile on their face. 

What ways do you promote frequent communication with your spouse?